Melanie Nesbitt gives advice on not taking too much advice
“I know it sounds weird to be giving advice on how not to listen to all the advice, but it’s true,” Melanie said.
As a freshman, Melanie was constantly being given advice on how to succeed in college.
“This caused me to stress out about trying to fulfill too many expectations,” she said. “It took me about a year to realize that I needed to do what made me happy and there was not one right way to do college.”
Melanie struggled with being told to avoid visiting home. It’s common to hear that going home makes the transition to college harder, but for Melanie the opposite was true.
“I realized going home distressed and energized me to become my best self,” she said. “Going home was an outlet for me. I know it’s not what some people need but for me it is.”
Whether it’s confusion when changing majors or figuring out how to use CyRide, Melanie has a passion for helping other students find their way through the crazy changes college brings. And for every person, the journey varies.
“People can experience the same thing but actually experience them completely differently,” she said.
When Melanie first came to campus she felt overwhelmed by the number of people she encountered and the many tips she received. But she quickly found her own smaller communities within the 36,000 students.
“I thought I needed to go to everyone for advice, but I just needed one or two groups to navigate through my time here,” she said.
Melanie encourages others to be patient and really try to experience new things until the right fit comes along — whether its friends, a club, a learning community, or even faculty members.
“It takes time,” Melanie said. “It may feel overwhelming to try to find these groups, but eventually you will find your home on campus.”
While finding home, Melanie says college also helps students find themselves. College teaches people who they are and what’s best for them personally.
“I always say there’s not one right way to do it,” Melanie said. “There are so many ways to succeed. You just have to find what’s best for you.”